The Mirror

Finally, schools is over for the semester (3.5 GPA!! Woot!) and I finally have some free time to provide you with a blog that I know you need in your life!! This one will be short. This morning, after I received my final grade for the semester, I did what I normally do at the end of each semester. I took a look in the mirror. Now, I don't do the "Good Morn...Damn! I need to wipe the crust out my eye and froth on my mouth" look, nor the "I look so good I could kiss myself and then actually start kissing the mirror" look. I take a look to go deeper than just the absolutely handsome sight in front of me :) I look to see if I am where I need to be physically, spiritually and emotionally. The reflection in the mirror will provide me with a starting point of changes that I need to make in the coming days, weeks, and months. From what I see, I start writing new goals and expectations. My ambition and focus becomes renewed. Its basically me resetting myself and getting ready for the next challenge. The mirror will also show if I can continue letting my hair grow or if it looks like a pack of wild skunks are have a meeting on my head (Kidding...not really). The mirror tells us a lot about ourselves, both on the outside and the inside. On the outside, it tells us if we are attractive. (which I am dammit!!) It tells us if we could stand to lose a few lbs. It reflects our smiles, frowns, cries, everything. It doesn't lie to us, no matter how much at times we wish it did (unless you travel with the circus and you have a trick mirror, in which it may give you a beard. Sorry, ladies). If you look at it long enough, it will allow you to look deep within. It will help you answer certain questions about yourself that you have been afraid to ask like, "Am I where I want to be in life?" "Am I happy with all aspects of my life?" "Will cherry cheesecake give me gas?" Ok maybe not the last one! But that long look in the mirror can give you answers to questions you need to have answered. On most days, we used the mirror for vanity purposes, checking how we look for work or whatever social function we have planned for that day. I would challenge you to take that long look. Go deep within and see if some issues that you have kept hidden start to pop up. Don't be afraid to become emotional. It might be a good thing because it may spark action to situations with which you have been procrastinating. You may get frustrated, depressed, or you may just be happy with what you see. All I would ask is that you take a look for a minute and see what happens. Not as quick as I thought. Its all good though!! On another quick note, say a prayer for the kids in CT!! This world is getting crazier by the day!! www.facebook.com www.massiveinternetradio.com www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston

The Angriest Blog EVER!!!

    OK!! As we all know, I try to be Mr. Positivity when it comes to writing these blogs.  I  provide life lessons and knowledge wrapped up in a big ball of silliness and tom foolery!  But I was asked to write a blog regarding the type of things that make me upset.  What ticks me off!! What makes me go from Bruce Banner to the Hulk in 3 seconds flat (besides my sister asking me to take out the garbage for her when I'm 45 minutes away :))!!  Well, I will give you a few ideas as to what pisses me off!! Prepare for the angriest blog EVER!! Not really, it just sounds tough!! Nah it doesn't!!
    The first pet peeve that comes right off the top of my head is complaining.  It ticks me off when I hear people upset about situations that 1.) has nothing to do with me and 2.) can be changed with a little bit of effort.  Now those who know me know that I will take the time out to help a friend in need and offer whatever kind of advice I can.  But don't talk my ear off for 25 minutes about how someone is trying to "hate" on you at your job bagging groceries.  I can fit 12 items in one bag and Sheniqua said "Good job!!" That b*tch is trying to bring me down!! HATIN ON ME!! Sheesh!!  Simple advice for complainers: FIX THE PROBLEM (Caps Lock for Emphasis, son!!) Ive never heard of a problem being complained away!
    Another pet peeve that comes to mind is sheer laziness.  Not the kind that has earned me the nickname from my eldest sister of "SlugWorth!"  I am talking about the effort that it takes to achieve a goal.  I have a few friends that, because of laziness, won't pursue their dreams and change their situation that they are, you guessed it, COMPLAINING ABOUT!!! They won't make the phone calls they have to make, meet the people they need to meet, or put in the work it takes to change the path of their life.  It frustrates the living s#$t out of me when I see a person have numerous opportunities laying at their feet. Instead of taking advantage of it, they take the easy way out and, i believe intentionally, miss out.  I'm sorry.  I may be a slug when I have a day off and nothing to do.  But I refuse to be lazy when there is a chance to be successful!!  A little bit of effort goes a long way in life.  I would rather put in the work and see where the opportunity takes me than to live with regret and wonder what could have been.
    I have other pet peeves, like unshaven underarms on a female, wearing a headband to hide male patterned baldness (Lebron, anyone?), drivers who don't signal when turning (I live in the South!!), snorting while laughing, drunk dialing, drying clothes in the microwave, tight shirts displaying man boobs unnecessarily, toupees, hair in a can, strippers with the body of a 12 year old boy (Shout out to the Notorious N.A.P.!!), racist gymnasts, redneck ant farmers, ...... OK, now I'm just making stuff up!  But I don't really have a ton that ticks me off anymore.  When I get upset about something, I just think of the most ridiculous thing I can and BOOM!! Anger gone!! 18 year old me vs. 34 year old me: 2 different guys!! That's a good thing!!

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Once A Cheater....

    I wasn't going to write this blog but, after a building session with the big homie, I decided to go through with it.  So if you find this blog offensive, blame him and not me!!
    I was having a conversation with a close female friend of mine and she said "Ever since I have known you, you haven't been faithful in one of your relationships." I was about to say something crazy to her until I thought about it.  Unfortunately she was right.  In almost all of my relationships, I have cheated.  Now I could blame it on the A-a-a-a-a-alcohol (Jamie Foxx voice!) or blame it on the rain (Shouts to Milli Vanilli!). But, to be completely honest, I wasn't able to find what I was looking for.  Now when I say that, it has nothing to do with the female.  It has everything to do with finding a passion.  For years, I couldn't figure out what I was looking for in life.  I knew that I was a smart dude but I didn't know what subject I was smart in.  I rapped for a few years, partied a whole bunch, and, yep, messed with a few females I shouldn't have.  I thought I was trying to find myself.  I had a bad combination of 1.) having a good job and making money and 2.) having access to alcohol, weed and friends who didn't give a f@#k just like me.  On the outside, I was living the good life.  But on the inside, I was more and more depressed because I wasn't passionate about anything.  After some soul searching and a road trip from Georgia to Maine (Ill talk about that trip in a later blog), I started on a journey that would put me back in school, working a job that I enjoy, starting to lose this Dunlap (term for when your gut dun-lapped over your belt and your pants), etc. I have found a passion in Accounting.   I had an slight interest in it in high school (Thanks Mr. Robey) and it developed a little more doing some bookkeeping in a grocery store in Virginia Beach, VA (shout out to the whole HT crew! Lots of shout outs on this blog!! I feel like a radio DJ naw mean!?!?).  Once I took an accounting class, I was hooked.  I feel fulfilled for the first time in a long time!  Now some a$$clown is saying to themselves "Cool Story, Bro.  But are you still a cheater?"  I would say no because i have no reason to.  I have some much on my plate in life that I don't have time to cheat.  I feel like I'm finding everything I am looking for.  Just to be on the safe side, (except for a quick summer fling) I took myself off of the dating market for a while to make sure that I am on point and ready for that time when I start looking for the right one.  I want a woman to see the real and complete me, not some sloppy drunk who fondles lady parts while his girlfriend looks on in disgust (Yep, unfortunately, that happened!).
    I don't believe in the phrase "Once a cheater, always a cheater."  That usually said by people who have been cheated on multiple times and blame it on others without, once, looking in the mirror and asking themselves ,"What am I doing to cause all this cheating?" I think that once a person commits to themselves fully, they can then commit to others with the vigor and passion necessary.  I know that I want a woman who is intellectually stimulating and funny.  I prefer brains over beauty because brains last longer. (Not to say she can have crooked vampire teeth and Lebron's hairline!! Gotta draw the line somewhere!)  I will continue to work on myself until I'm ready for love. Until then........

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Change?

    I have come to the conclusion that "Change" is the most overrated word in the dictionary.  You may say "Oh wise, handsome, stunningly dapper one ( you may not have said it. But that's EXACTLY what you were thinking), why would you say that? I say that because, about 95% of the time, the only thing that comes with talking about change.... is a whole lot more talking about change.  Its like people know exactly what they have to do to make their dreams come true but are unwilling to make it happen.  There could be many reasons for this (fear of success, lack of desire to commit, smelly armpits, etc.). Whatever it is, people allow it to stifle their growth.  But there is a word that used less often than change.  It is a word, though, that actually goes hand in hand with change but NEVER gets put into the same sentence with it.  That word is WORK.  How can a person make any real change without the willingness to put in WORK to achieve their goals?  How can a person have a successful relationship without putting WORK in? How can a student achieve honor roll status without putting in WORK for it? How can you do anything in this life without WORK? And no, I will not stop capitalizing the word WORK for this entire blog.  I want all of the "We want change" people to understand that they need to change the language up just a little bit.  Instead of saying "I'm going to make a change," start saying, "I'm going to WORK!" If you say that you are going to WORK, I will take your effort more serious because 1). WORK requires you to be quiet, put your head down and handle your business, 2.) WORK requires actual effort and a burning desire to achieve your goals and 3.) WORK will lead to change in one way or another.  Its simple mathematics: Change minus the WORK required to make it happen is just a wish.  I am still waiting to find a magic lamp that I can rub for a genie to appear and grant my three wishes (and after I receive my billion dollars and 500 stripper wives on unicorns, I may wish for world peace!). Until that day comes, I will just continue to put in the WORK required to achieve greatness!!!
    By the way, I apologize to Ms. Jackson, my information systems professor, as this blog was typed during her class time.

Also, this Blog was inspired by Loaded Lux! Don't know who he is, Google him!!!
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Acceptance!!!

   Happy Labor Day Weekend everybody!!! Now remember all the techniques you learned in Lamaze class, make sure you breath slowly, and that baby will...... Oh my bad, not THAT kind of labor! Ha!! That's a joke I have been waiting to tell forever. (My blog, my rules).
    Anyway, I will make this blog short and sweet.  This one is about acceptance.  This is a tough topic for a lot of people because most of us don't want to accept the fact that we are who we are.  Some guys want to be thugs when they are as soft as a handful of feathers.  Some women want to be players but can't handle the heartache that comes with it.  What folks don't realize is that, once you finally accept who you are, your life starts moving in the direction that you want.  Subconsciously, we worry too much about what people think of us and we do too much to gain the love and admiration of everyone around us.  I say F#$%* that!! Gain the love and admiration of yourself first and, if people love you, so be it.  If they hate you, so what!?!  I have a lot of experience on this topic because it took me a long time to accept the person that I am.  I never saw myself as a guy who finds accounting fascinating (Don't judge me!! Ha!!), likes reading and problem solving and has a bigger interest in wrestling than a grown man should.  But this is me so deal with it!! Now it took adversity to get to this level of comfortable, but it doesn't matter how you get there.  It just matters that you get there.
    I guess another reason why I am writing this is because this is the only way I can communicate this message to one of my closest friends.  I'm not going to mention any names but, if the person reads this blog, they will know that its about them.  I have tried talking to them about it.  But the person is a know-it-all who has an answer for everything. This person is the epitome what I'm talking about.  They go to church on Sundays but then talk about pimping females for money.  They want to be a big time player but, because they don't have a job, a car, or any money, they have to rely on others to get around and get emotional when their women get snatched away (if you lack the basics like money and transportation, that is what happens).  They are presented numerous opportunities to make good money to start progressing in life (jobs in real estate, stock market, etc.).  But because there is work involved and the jobs aren't the kind that put you in the spotlight (like entertainment or sports), they feel like these jobs are "beneath" them.  Its not a problem with intelligence.  My crew says its a lack of ambition and drive.  I say its a lack of accepting who they really are.  I believe once this person finally understands their role in life and stops trying to be someone they aren't, life will become a lot easier and they will excel and become the leader they are meant to be.  If this post means that someone will be mad at me, it is OK because it comes from someone who cares about them and wants to see them do well.  Sometimes tough love is the best love. 
    Sorry, blog readers!! But this was something I had to get off my chest!! The fun, games and positivity will resume next blog!!!
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I know it wasn't short and sweet!!! Sheesh!!!

Where's the Love?!?

   Life has been changing at a rapid pace for me.  School is about to start, work is off the chain, and I just haven't been inspired to write about the random ridiculousness that I experience on a daily basis.  That is, until this week, when I had a conversation with a gentleman older than I.  During lunch, I was playing some tunes from my YouTube play list when the song "Is This Love" by Whitesnake came on.  Now, after the initial shock from all the people around me that I was playing this song (except for the one heavy-mulleted fellow who broke out the air guitar), we started to talk about love and how it seems to be missing in society today.  After a few minutes, everyone, except for myself and another gentleman, left the room.  We continued to talk about relationships and love and, as I noticed the wedding ring on his finger, I asked him how long he had been married.  He said "20 years!" I asked him how he continues to make it work.  He said "I fall in love with her every day like it's the first day I met her." He then proceeded to tell me how, when he first saw her, he knew right then and there she was going to be his wife and literally told this to her in their initial exchange.  He sought out, and received, her parents' permission, made a list (and had her do likewise) of all the things he expected from her, and married her 5 weeks after they met.   He stated that, in the 20 years, they have only had 3 major arguments and that he has never lied to her.  He tells her when he is hanging with the fellas, showed her photos of every woman he had ever been with (I damn near threw up in my mouth when he said that one!), and promised her that she would never have to work unless she wanted to. 
    Now, as he explaining all of this to me, I am thinking 3 different thoughts. 1.) This guy is a psychopath who keeps his wife in a shed in his backyard, 2.) This guy is one of the luckiest guys ever to be able to not only find, but know and experience what true love is, and 3.) How do we know what true love is?
    I know a lot of people who are with someone, not because they truly love that person, but out of convenience (have a car, house, lonely, boredom, money, etc.). If you have to lie to someone (and yourself) to be with that person, how can you say you are in love?  In my personal opinion (since I'm writing this, it is the ONLY opinion that matters!), the person you fall in love with should not only be your lover, but also your best friend.  You should be able to tell that person anything and everything.  It should be someone that you want to build for (job, money, ambition) and build with (family, dog, etc.).  I guess when you truly find "The One," you just know. I did the "Sucka Bet" blog a few weeks ago because I had such a negative view of relationships and marriage.  But after talking with good people (and being involved with some ridiculous flings this summer), my stance on this is changing.  I think there is someone for everyone.  But we just have to be patient and be willing to get to know the person and not just the body part.  This Blog is Over!!!! Ha!!!

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ENERGY!

    According to Webster's New World Dictionary, which I use to find my Word of the Day, which you can find Monday through Friday on www.facebook.com, (Shameless Plug plus a run on sentence to end all run on sentences---Call me Butter because I'm on a Roll!!), the definition of energy is a force of expression; inherent power; capacity for action; the capacity for doing work.  In my opinion, energy can determine your mood, motivation, speed of action, and many other items that shape our world.  I have been stuck on this word because, this week, I had two drastically different conversations with some people who demonstrated a substantial difference in energy. 
    The first person, an older woman who I work with, trapped me for a brief period in her web of negative energy.  Being the courteous individual that I am {apologies to family members I terrorize to this day :) }, I asked her how she was doing.  She proceeded to go into this 12 minute (I counted) diatribe about how much the job sucks, how management is stupid, and how the world just wants to "f$%k you in the a$$ without Vaseline and smear the semen in your face!!" I cant make that one up if I tried.  I tried to be friendly and say something positive.  But she would counter with more negativity and, to make matters worse, I found myself getting caught up in that negative energy! I was starting to talk ignorantly.  I realized what was happening, and I politely excused myself from the conversation.  The woman was so full of negativity that she didn't want to hear anything positive from me or anyone else.  I can't deal with that kind of energy.  Constant talk of failure will suck the life out of you if you let it!!
     Now the second person that I talked to, a guy my age, came up to me asking questions about some job processes.  That conversation turned into a 10 minute back and forth exchange concerning goal setting, accomplishments and just the desire to do better.  The guy had been a barber all of his life.  He decided to go back to school to become a pharmacist (Legal, not street ya weirdos!) because he has always been interested in the field and he wants to set a better example for his 3 kids.  I was fascinated by all of this because I could feel nothing but good, positive energy coming from this cat!  That's the type of energy that I want to be surrounded by!!  The dude said he has had setbacks but realized that, as long as he "maintains his smile," everything will be alright! Those are words to live by right there.
    I have had to cut people off in my life because of the energy they brought around me.  I admit that there have been times in my life when I haven't been the friendliest person to be around.  My existence has always been based on energy.  I strive to keep my energy positive every day because 1.) It keeps me friendly and outgoing and 2.) It saves me from choking out folks who deserve it!! Bottom line, if you think life sucks (negative energy) or you think the world is your oyster (positive energy), either way, you are right!
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Commitment!

    I haven't been blogging as much as I was at the beginning of the year for two reasons. 1.) I'm working, studying and just living life minus the Internet. 2.) I haven't been moved to write in a little bit.  That changed recently after a quick fling that I had with this young lady who, after a few weeks of good times, tells me that she has had a boyfriend for the past 4 years and would like to continue "seeing" me on the side. In my mind, the Dog in me yelled, "Self High-Five!! Killing em in these skreets (streets for the ebonically challenged)!" But after thinking about it, one question came to mind: What the hell ever happened to commitment!?!  More than ever, people are looking for an easy way out of a situation rather than seeing it through the bloody end. If your relationship isn't working, rather than working on it, you complain about it on Facebook and go cheat at a bar.  If school work becomes more difficult, you drop out instead of getting help. You start a goal but don't finish it because it got too hard!!! Its getting more and more ridiculous!!!!
   People need to realize that the fun is in the journey!!! Sure, there will be tough times!! You may even want to quit!! But I would challenge anyone to stay committed to whatever goal or expectation they set for themselves.   I guarantee you will not only be happy with the outcome, but you will enjoy the experience!! I have said all of that to say these three words: Commit! Don't quit!!
   Oh Yeah!!!!  Do not think that I forgot about the Challenge that I had laid out for everyone a few months ago!! In the beginning, I received messages from people letting me know about their progress and how they were ready for a change!! About a month later, those messages stopped coming in!!  If you are reading this, don't stop!! Remain committed and continue on your journey!! The magic will happen sooner than you think!!!
    As for this young lady, I told her that she should try to work it out with this dude and, if it doesn't work, at least you tried.......... and I'll keep the backdoor open for ya!!!! S.W.A.G.!!!!!
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Adversity: One Year Later....

    I am writing this blog on June 12, 2012, which is the one year anniversary of my DUI.  Since that night, I haven't drank alcohol or smoke any kind of substance at all.  I've had a moment to sit back and think about what I have done.  Life has definitely been crazy.  I went back to school full time, regained my work ethic, dated a few of the most ridiculous females on the planet, made a whole bunch of new friends, fulfilled all of the requirements of my probation, and started this silly little blog.  I know what you are thinking right now. That was the longest run on sentence in the history of run on sentences!!! I know!! But it's my blog, dammit!!!
    This blog is all about adversity.  Like I wrote in "The Shift" (shameless promotion of my first real blog! If you haven't read it yet, whadaya waiting for!?!), I have heard that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.  We all have our own perceptions of difficult situations.  For some, it could be the break up of a long term relationship after finding your lover in bed with your neighbor and the family cat.  For others (as I dealt with during community service), it could be getting kicked out of your home and being forced to find shelter and something to eat.  Whatever it is, our response to adversity is what makes us who we are.
    The easiest thing to do is to give up.  You can let all who ever doubted you win while you succumb to the demons that keep you in harm's way.  The toughest thing to do is fight.  It can be hard to keep fighting when the chips are down.  There will be days when you just want to quit and say, "Ive had enough." But life has a strange way of rewarding those who keep fighting with success.  You may not see it right away.  But if you keep your head high and refuse to quit, you'll see the change come over you.  Corny Slogan Alert! Here is something to remember: When the mountain seems to get tougher to climb, just say to yourself "One rock at a time!!" Yes, I made that up myself!! Yay!
    You are probably saying to yourself, "Oh Wise Holder of a Checkered Shirt, Taped Glasses and a Pocket Protector.  What are some steps I can follow to help me get over MY adversity?"  Whelp, this is what works for me (this may not work for you. Remember, I'm studying to be an accountant, not a doctor so don't sue me!). 1.) Set a Goal and stick to it.  2.) Keep people around you who, when you start having a pity party, can make you laugh and keep you motivated during the rough times. 3.) Talk with people who are smarter than you. Their brilliance will rub off on you (except if you have sisters named Maya and Andrea!! Sheesh!) 4.) Read and exercise, not for the intellect and six pack abs, but to help you maintain your sanity when things get rough (plus, you will feel sexier when its time for the magic to happen. You'll pull that rabbit out the hat and....umm, yeah, you get the idea!!)  Finally, 5.) Find spirituality!! I'm not telling you to go Bible or Koran Thumping or all Mormon on these fools out here!! Just find something that will assist you on your search for yourself!!
    If you are going through a rough time, good luck!! Inbox me and I may shout you a holla, dun!! Just keep the faith and keep grinding!!!
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2nd Childhood a.k.a COM Disorder

    Before I go into the latest topic, let me apologize to the readers.  When I started doing this blog, I  advised everyone that I would keep it as light as possible.  Lately, I've been getting a little bit too serious. I reread "Sucka Bet," and it made me say "Sheesh!!" That was a little too harsh.  I will do what I can to keep it light.  My blog is designed to be a getaway from the stress and ridiculousness of life, not some moron griping about the sucktitude of marriage (made up a new word and I dont care)! I promise to go back to having a good time.  Now that this is taken care of, I do have to talk about something VERY serious. -____-
    It is a must that I address this serious illness that I have been struck with.  Ive tried different remedies to cure myself of this terrible disease.  But I feel like it is taking over my mind, body and soul.  It is called C.O.M. Disorder. COM, of course, is short for Creepy Old Man.  It affects millions of men over the age of 30, causing them to dye their hair, wear clothes that make young children throw up, and spend money they don't have, all for the affections of a woman between the ages of 21-25. I admit it!! I got caught up!!
    I recently had a string of dates where the average age of the females was 23.  I will not lie; They were all a blast.  Without being too graphic, I will say that a lot less work was required to reach the "happy ending", if ya catch my drift. (HEHEH....OK That was creepy!!)  But it made me wonder if I am taking this 2nd childhood thing a little too far.  If you asked my sisters, they would say, "Yes, Graybeard!! Find someone your own age!" My boys would say,"Age ain't nothing but a number, Pimpin!!" (Swag) I look at it like this: When I decided to go back to school, I told myself that I would make up for lost time and use all available resources to make my college experience a memorable one. From practicing with the newly formed football team (and throwing my back out in the process) to attending philosophy lectures (I officially hate pony-tail-liberal-with-the-suit-jacket-over-the-T-Shirt guy), I was going to make the most of it. If this puts me in the Creepy Old Man bracket, so be it.  If you see me hanging with Old-Man-At-The-Club Guy or Hawaiian-Shirt-to-Hide-My-Gray-Chest-Hair-and-Beer-Gut-Guy, don't laugh at us, salute us!!! Of course, if you see Hang-out-at-the-Park-wearing-Nothing-But-a-Trench-Coat Guy, kick him in the nuts and call the cops!! I'm not chilling with that dude!!!
     The moral to this Blog is this: Don't let your age stop you from changing your life and this world. If you don't understand the concept of a 2nd childhood, Click the link: http://youtu.be/vH847J8htcI
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Nerd Alert

    I haven't had a whole lot to blog about lately because, well, life is boring right now.  This is intentional as I had to slow down the craziness that represents me in order to become as successful as I want to be.  I don't know many people who actually sat down and said, "I Love Accounting with a Passion!!" That's me!! I think I will part my hair down the middle, rock some high water khakis with the pocket protector and tape the middle of my glasses!! That is the road that I am headed down!! But that is OK, though, because I have probably lived about 5 lives and it took all 5 to get to this point of peace. 
   When I was younger, I thought I was going to be involved in Football in some shape, form, or fashion.  It didn't matter that I was 5'5 and a lineman.  I just knew that was what I wanted to do.  When reality kicked in, I then decided that I wanted to rap.  With that decision, though, I had to ask myself a few questions: Knowing that I had 2 sisters, could I disrespect women like that?  Do my pants sag enough? How would I look with gold teeth? Does fake gold turn your neck green? I have always thought (and still think to this day) that me rapping is an insult to my intelligence (No disrespect to other aspiring rappers out there). After a lot of soul searching, I realized that I had a love for numbers and a love for puzzles and mazes.  You may be saying, "King of the Rodeo Clowns, what do they all have in common?" Simple, that is basically what Accounting is.  It's one big puzzle full of mazes, numbers and surprises.  It's up to you to figure it out and make sense of it all.  Depending on what level of Accounting you choose, what you discover can either save a family a bunch of money during tax season, or a corporation millions of dollars which can be turned into profits later.  Yeah, there is a lot of money to be made in the field but, to be honest, it's deeper than the money.  Its the challenge of putting the puzzle together and seeing what it forms.  Nerdy as hell? Damn right it is!!! Necessary to society? Yessir!! It is not glamorous work.  But, from the classes I have taken, It is work that I love and that I am passionate about (umm, read the Passion Blog if you have any questions on passion! Yep).
    I'm sorry if this blog is not as ridiculous as the ones in the past.  But a) Its my blog, dammit!!! and b) Its like that sometimes!!! If every moment of your life is exciting, more power to ya!! If I blogged some of the stories of my life, you would think I was a) Awesome, b) A pervert and c) Out of my mind!!! I will keep it PG ....... for now!!!
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Sucka Bet!!

    First let me apologize for not posting over the past week and a half.  I had finals and that takes precedent.  Did you miss me? Well, #$%^ you!! I didn't miss you either!!! Just kidding.  Anyway, this blog is going to be about marriage.  If you are happily married, you may not want to read this.  If not, read on.
    This week, North Carolina passed an amendment banning gay marriage.  I was having a conversation with one of my boys and they asked what my opinion of this was.  I said that I don't have a problem with gays being married.  They're taxpayers. Let them be miserable like everyone else! He then asked me, "Don't you believe in the sanctity of marriage involving one man and one woman?" I answered his question with a question of my own. I said, "What man in his right mind would want to get married?" Then, he started talking about all of the positives of marriage.  He said," Its great having someone to come home to, talk to, etc." I said "Sorry, dawg.  Its my opinion that marriage is for suckers." He hung up the phone on me.(I forgot to mention that he is married).
    I have no desire right now to get married for a number of reasons. 1). I'm still working on getting my mind and my money correct.  2.) I have so many things that I want to do in life and I feel like a wife and kids would get in the way. 3.) I don't have time to play stupid games with women who I have no feelings for just to get some action.  I know that last one was harsh.  But lets be real: Dating is one big game with both parties trying to see what they can get out of it rather than seeing what they can put into it. In my opinion, the guys so desperate to be in relationships or get married are either a.) ugly, b.) have no game and just want to get with the first woman who will actually care about anything they have to say and c.) have no ambition and are looking for a woman to take care of their sorry a$$es.
    Now I know that there are guys who want to start their own families, and I respect that tremendously.  If you are one of these guys, make sure you select the right one.  The right wife equals a lifetime of marital bliss.  The wrong wife can destroy you financially and emotionally.  I have a friend who dated this woman for 2 years and got married, got too comfortable and let go a little.  Although he was still making good money, he gained 25 lbs and his hair thinned a little bit.  Meanwhile, his wife worked out every day, still looked good and decided she wanted to show the world.  While he was working to take care of the bills and the kids, she was going out, looking for attention.  Long story short, she cheated and filed for divorce.  He didn't find out about the affair until after the divorce proceedings and now he pays child support and alimony while she is chilling with the dude she cheated with.  I know!! Its one isolated incident.  But hearing stories like this and seeing the ridiculous divorce rates makes me think twice about getting locked u..... I mean, married.  Relationships and marriage are like full time jobs; You have to put work in to get anything out of it.  At this time, I don't feel like putting that time in.  Could my opinion change? Of course.  But right now, I will happily live the single life.  Maybe next lifetime.
    THEEEEEE 11th Blog is Done.  Follow on www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston, check me out on www.facebook.com and also www.massiveinternetradio.com as well!!! Peace
 

Passion

Hey!! I wasn't going to write anything this week due to finals.  But 2 things which are totally different but, in my eyes, run parallel with each other, happened this week.  First, all congratulations go to my nephew, Trevor Coston, for being signed by the Chicago Bears (no Mom, I'm not exploiting him).  He has worked hard and I have no doubts that he will continue to work his tail off to be the best he can be.  Second, anyone who follows football is more than likely in shock over the death of Junior Seau.  It looks like it was a suicide.  Now people will say he took too many blows to the head and that it may have contributed to his early demise.  This is my take on it:  Have you ever been so passionate about something that you feel like life is worthless without it? All that you wanted in life was to be part of this one big thing and, without your permission, it gets taken away from you. You trained all of your life for it.  It has brought you your greatest joy (and pain). Then, one day, it's gone.  A lot of people have never had that kind of love for something so they can't relate.  I have lost two things in my life that I have deeply cared for: my mother and football.  It has taken me years to adjust to not having either one in my life.  My love for my mother still runs deep.  Her passing is one reason why I question religion today (another topic for another day).  I also spent years trying to replace the high that I got from football.  Alcohol, lady parts, weed, etc. couldn't replace it.  I think that is why I have become so dedicated to accounting.  I have finally found something that keeps me intellectually challenged as well as a tool that feeds my passion for numbers.  Nerd Alert!!! But maybe, for a guy like Junior Seau, he just got sick and tired of searching for something to replace football.  Unfortunately, like the saying goes, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.   If you are having any thoughts of depression or stress or even suicide, seek help and evaluate your life.  Think about your family before taking that drastic step.
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Role Models

    Let me apologize in advance for the 1 day delay.  I've been studying as finals are coming up.  Plus I have been drawing a blank lately trying to come up with new ideas for a blog.  Like I say, I try to stay away from ridiculous topics and I keep it positive and, at times, silly.  I'll keep it quick and talk about role models.
    I would hope that we all have people in our lives who inspire us to be better than average.  Go the extra mile!! Be all you can be!! Insert your own cliche here!! Seriously, how do expect to be a hard worker if you have no real examples in front of you? Its like a virgin trying to be a porn star! Someone has to show you how it's done!!
    I have been blessed to have many examples in front of me. My family members, from the Dome Ranger, a.k.a. my father, to my sisters,  have all inspired me in their own way.  My nephew, who is younger than me, serves as an definite example of what hard work can bring.  I watched my boy J (nicknames will be referenced to protect the guilty) go from a party loving enemy of sobriety to a college graduate/paralegal/super conscious individual who, after a 5 minute conversation, will make you rethink your life plans.  I guess watching all of these people make moves toward reaching their goals gets me thinking to myself: Umm 5head, lets get a move on!!!
    There were many years where I lived very reckless.  All I wanted to do was party, play with lady parts and sleep.  Now, as I get older, I realize that I have a lot of influence over people.  There are folks that (gulp!) actually might be inspired by my moves and success.  It wouldn't be fair to them if I give less than 110%.  I'll sum it up with 2 points: 1).  You are never too old to be inspired, and 2). You are never too old to inspire.  If you remember that, meeting your goals and expectations will be a breeze!!!!
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Club Guy

So I was in the gym today reacquainting myself with the weights.  225 lbs 13 times on the bench press? Embarrassing!!! Someone will be in on the regular to regain his strength....and dignity......and manhood!!! Anyway, these 2 guys I knew struck up a conversation with me and they talked about going to a club tonight.  I started looking at these dudes and a thought came to me.  I wondered what type of club guys these dudes were? There are many different kinds of club guys out there.  Lemme name a few!
THE WALLFLOWER= This guy is one of 2 types of wallflowers. Either A). The wallflower who is scared of life and will not approach anyone for a conversation (see Nice Guy from prior blogs), or B). Guy who thinks he looks so good that women have no choice but to approach him.  He stands there with a drink in hand thinking to himself, "This shirt cost $100.00. It looks so good, I wouldn't be surprised if a dude tried to bag me tonight!!" He thinks a woman will come over to him and say, "OMG!! That shirt is not only awesome but looks expensive!! Will you do me a favor and take me home and make love to me, PLEASE!?!" Yep, That Guy!
ONE DRINK AWAY GUY: This guy is one drink away from either having the greatest night of his life or having to be beaten by security or tasered by cops.  This guy is trying to drink just enough to maintain the great buzz he has going on. But he ALWAYS orders that extra Long Island Ice Tea to send him over the edge. When he's buzzing, he's fun!! Women are attracted to him because they see him having a great time and want to join in on the fun!! But then he has that last drink and BOOM!! He turns in to......
LIKES TO FIGHT GUY: When you see a guy with a bloody nose and half his shirt out yelling at no one in particular, you're looking at likes to fight guy.  When he's drunk, he thinks he is the toughest guy in America and that he's one knockout of a bouncer away from becoming a contender in UFC!! If your boy walks over to you and says, "See the way that (insert derogatory term here) is looking at me," walk out the club because you are about to be arrested on the charge of having a douche bag in your crew who deserves to get his ass beat!!
OLD GUY AT THE CLUB: Our favorite!! The guy who is in his late 30's to early 50's who should be at home chillin!! Nope!! He saw the sign at the door that said,"Your youth is here!! Come inside to regain it!" Now, I will stop you clowns yelling that, "Well 30 is the new 20" nonsense right now! 30 is 30 is 30!! Go try drinking like you were 20 and tell me how that 30 year old body feels!! Alright then!! Old guy at the club is either single and doesn't have his stuff together yet, or single with a kid and is going out because "he can't stand his baby mama! ....gets on my last nerve!"  He has no problem approaching a female. Chances are he will use game he learned back in 1992 and just give it an update to get a number.  I remember going to the 56th Fighter Club in Long Island, NY like 10 years ago and saw this old guy with a cane and rocking a 3 piece pink pimp suit with a fedora!! He just stood there, then saw a woman he was interested in, stepped on the dance floor and did the most awkward 2-step I have ever seen!! Hilarious!!
There are many other club guys, like shiny shirt guy, the predator, perverted look guy. etc. I may talk about them in a future blog.  But if you go out tonight, you just might spot on of these guys (Or one of these guys could be you!!!) Hmmmm.........
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I Got The Power....to VOTE!!!

    A few weeks back, I wrote a blog called "The Challenge" which was designed to get you off your lazy rumpus and  help you accomplish that special something you have been putting off!!! If you took the Challenge, how are you doing? Are things changing at all in your life for the better? If they are, good. That's what's supposed to happen. If they aren't, just remember the phrase "Rome wasn't built in a day." Pain breeds character. Stay on the path and watch the magic happen!!
Now onto the main topic of today's blog: Voting!! First things first!! I'M NOT TELLING YOU WHO TO VOTE FOR!!! This is not me stumping for either party.  This is me telling you the importance of voting and why we should not take it for granted. A lot of you think voting only matters when there is a presidential election.  But what about voting for your Congressman? They only represent your state and form laws and policies that will shape your life in the future!!  How about voting for your city councilmen or women, judges, mayors, etc? They are the ones making decisions for the towns and cities that you live in.  Don't you think that you should know what the heck is going on in your own backyard? What I'm going to do is give you an extreme example of the power of voting that, hopefully, you can relate to.
    It's 4 A.M. Sunday Morning! You have just had the greatest club night ever!! You got 10 phone numbers, the hottest girl in the club kissed you on the dance floor, and you were able to maintain your buzz the entire night without getting drunk!!! You were the man (or woman)!! You want to celebrate this night with a cold shower because you were ON FIRE!!! But the water won't run!! Shower, sink and the toilet (in which you dropped an epic log)  don't work! You say, "Ill sleep it off and take care of it later." Afternoon comes and you call the water company to see what's wrong!! They tell you,"Sorry, But during the last election, there was a referendum voted on and passed by the citizens of the town stating that between Sunday and Tuesday, every week, there will be no running water! It's their way of saving money as water prices were rising!! It only passed by one vote! Did you vote?" Then you hang up the phone and scream in frustration because that crap you left in the toilet is starting to stink up the house!
    Now I know this is a ridiculous example.  But it's designed to show you that, although you may not think so, your vote counts.  Voting is the one thing in America that is equal.  It doesn't matter how much money you have. One man/woman= One Vote!!! When you go to get your Drivers License, they also give you the option to register to vote, leaving you with no excuses!! For many of you, your grandparents (and great grandparents) died for the right to vote.  Don't take it for granted or think that because you don't have a certain amount of money that you don't count.  A lot of times, political parties take advantage of your reluctance to vote! Take back the power and VOTE!!
    Now that you are ready to vote, I would advise you to do a little research on the candidates.  I'm not telling you to write a 10 page paper on a candidate.  All I'm saying is to check what their positions are on issues that appeal to you.  If you like lower taxes and the candidate you like has a history of raising them, they may not be the one you want to vote for.  Also, don't be afraid to question a candidate's character.  Lets say you do a little research and you find out that your incumbent Congressman has a $50 a day coke habit and films himself break dancing in a Rodeo Clown outfit while "making it rain" with taxpayer dollars! (I know, I know!! He wouldn't be wearing a rodeo clown outfit! I crack myself up!) Again, ridiculous example.  But, if you get a chance, google the name Marion Barry! Enough Said! All I'm saying is to do some research on the issues and character of the candidates and make you own decision.  It doesn't necessarily have to be down a party line.  Vote for who you think would perform the job the best.
    I tried to keep this as short as I could because I didn't want to bore you with statistics and phrases that would rack your brain.  But I think you get the gist of what this blog is about!! This fall, VOTE!!! AND DO IT THE RIGHT WAY!!!!
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Control!!

    I must admit; This week, my thoughts have been all over the place.  So, I would like to warn you in advance that this blog will be all over the place as well!! If I choose to, I will get to a point but, until then, allow me to ramble on about some nonsense in an attempt to make a weak connection!! Thank you!!
    Recently, I went on a date with a young lady.  Ok, she was a SMOKING HOT young lady.  Excuse me while I take a second to pat myself on the back!! Anyway, we started talking and, unfortunately, the topic of conversation turned to music.  I asked her what her favorite form of music was.  She told me, "I love rap music and hip hop." Now, for those of you who don't know me, I am a dedicated fan of rap music. I've listened to hip hop for over 26 years now (Damn I'm old!), and I've written and produced songs for myself and others.  I said "Cool!" Then she pulled out her phone, went on to You Tube and played for me who she thought was, as she put it, one of the best and most real rappers in the game today.  Then she played this for me: http://youtu.be/bEadSQU9q-I  You can click the link at your own risk!! After listening to it, it made me think of how much I hate rap music now!!!
    I used to have a DEEP love for rap music.  But once it became less about the art form and more about the money, the music started to go downhill. Guys have sacrificed talking about relevant social issues in favor of money, fine women, jewelry, basically, a whole lot of nothing!!! Its basically what happens when you lose control of something you create, which is the main point of this blog: Control!!
A lot of us lose control of our lives and we don't even realize it.  We give it up to our jobs and allow them to stress us out to the max.  We give it up to our belongings as we feel that if we don't have the latest gadgets or nicest cars, somehow, we are less significant than the next man or woman. At times we give up control to our lovers, letting them dictate the terms of a relationship in exchange for sexual and emotional favors.  Here is the Question that I demand you ask yourself this week: "Am I in Control?" If the answer is NO, then the next question should be, "How do I regain control?" Whether you know it or not, how much control you have over yourself can determine the next 5, 10, hell, the rest of your life!!!
    Trust me, if you aren't in control, once you take it back, you will feel like a new person.  This is the same way I feel about rap music.  Once the artists take back the artistry, you will not only have a better product, but the art will have a better representation to the world rather than the garbage you see on T.V. now.  If I see another 100 tattoo-having, raccoon-face sucka with jeggins and ugg boots on my television screen again, I'll........do nothing but change the channel (Straight Thug Talk right there!!)!! The whole point of this for you, the reader, and you, the rapper, is to learn the power of control and use it wisely.
    As for the young lady, there will be no second date!!!
This week was just a quickie!! Next Week I'll be doing challenge checkups and teaching you how to VOTE!! OOhhhhhh!!!! 6th blog done!! follow on www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston and www.facebook.com

My Two Cents!!

      Damn!! This has been such a crazy week, not only in my personal life, but just in general.  I told you when I first started that I was going to keep the blog entertaining rather than discuss heavy issues.  But, at the same time, this Trayvon Martin situation has got a lot of people riled up and it opens up old wounds in regards to racial profiling, classism, the influence of $ (NRA I got you!), etc.  That's why, this week, I will break this blog down into what I will call The Funny, The Ridiculous, and The Tragic.  I will discuss 3 stories in the news and give you my two cents.  After a week like this, I feel it is still my duty to provide at least a bit of entertainment!!!
      First, I will address the The Funny: The Tim Tebow-to-the-Jets-The-Lord-is-My-Shepherd story.  The Jets showed this week why they will always be the little brother to the Giants by trading 2 draft picks to the Broncos for God's 2nd begotten son and a 7th round draft pick (only after they sign Drew Stanton to a contract to be the backup QB a few days earlier). Now some will try to put a positive spin on it by talking about Tebow's leadership, the Wildcat offense, the fact that he's good on his feet and we all know how Rex Ryan loves feet, etc. But the problem is that the Jets didn't make this move based on benefits to the organization.  They still need Offensive Line help, a Wide Out, D End, etc.  This was done as a publicity stunt to take the back pages of the NY newspapers away from the NY Giants who, by the way, dont worry about that stuff,  All they do is win SuperBowls!!  I could tell that this is one of those moves made by ownership!! Woody Johnson, owner of the Jets, sat in the owners box in Mile High Stadium the night Tebow and Broncos came back to beat the Jets. When Tebow became available, he probably said "(Jets GM) Tannenbaum, I don't care what you have to do! Bring me Tebow!!!" Championships are not built off gimmicks!! They are built off of hard work, smart work, determination and patience!! None of these traits have been displayed by the Jets!!! Good luck this season!! Myself and the Lord are watching!!
      Next up, the Ridiculous!! A woman in Colorado called a Denver radio station and bragged about how she avoided jury duty! This moron detailed the steps she took to avoid having to serve (including some lies about having post traumatic stress disorder and mental issues) and even talked about how she and her roommate got such a kick out of it!! Welp, the judge she lied to happened to be listening to the show, had her investigated and arrested on 2 felony charges (perjury and attempting to influence a public servant). Wow!!! Note to all aspiring thugs, crime bosses, thieves, etc; If your dumb a$$ is going to commit a crime, DON'T TELL ANYONE ABOUT IT, let alone call up a radio station to brag!!! I try to give people the benefit of the doubt.  Unfortunately, some people go out of their way to show you that they are stuck between stage 3 and 4 of the evolutionary chain!!
      Finally, the Tragic!! Everyone knows the Trayvon Martin story!! It is a sad story and one that has affected all of us in some way.  I don't want to get too deep into it because, again, I want to keep my blog lighthearted.  But I will say two things about it. First, R.I.P Trayvon. A child is dead and no parent deserves that heartbreaking of an experience.  Second, I hope that this raw energy and emotion being shown can be transformed into something that will help make changes in the communities so that tragedies like this won't happen again.  Adversity creates courage and, if this inspires one child to become a lawyer, another to become an activist, etc. Then this effort won't be in vain!!!
     5th Blog Done (You've got your paragraphs, Maya Coston)!! As always, follow me on twitter at www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston or comment on www.facebook.com and let me know what you think!!!

The Challenge

Happy Post St. Patrick's Day!!! To my Irish homies, "Top of the Morning to Ya" (although for most of you it should be "Top of the Evening" as you recover from your hangover)! To all my BLIrishman (Black and Irish homies: All 2 of ya), Shamrock, Shenanigans and Snapbacks!! I am going to try to keep this week's blog short and sweet.  At the beginning of every year, we all have our New Years' Resolutions, which basically become promises to ourselves that we do not keep.  These days, I live by the expression, "A promise is a comfort to a fool!"  In my opinion, goals, where your desired results are written down on paper and displayed as a constant reminder of where you need to go, work much better.  If you have to look at your goals everyday (and even recite the words you place on that paper), there is not only a bigger sense of accountability, but also it gives you a true aim to work backwards from.  A friend of mine had a dream to become a nurse.  So every morning, she would say out loud, "I WILL BE A NURSE!" (Kind of annoying at 5:30 in the morning after a night of drinks and unmentionables...). But she worked at it and she fulfilled her dream all by herself.
Now, for a second, put yourself in her shoes and imagine you gave yourself a real goal.  Not an empty promise; I am talking about a goal, written out, with a time frame of, let's say, one year from today!!! Do you think you can reach it? Do you think you would be up for a life changing experience? What would be your motivation? How would you reach your goal?  A lot of things to think about, right? Well, that is why this blog is named "The Challenge!" I challenge you to come up with a legitimate goal for yourself.  It doesn't have to be huge.  Just a little something that you think you can accomplish within a year. Don't make it too easy, like showering once a day for a year (For some of you, that is an achievement!). At the same time, don't get too ridiculous with it either! Should you choose to take me up on the challenge, I only have two rules for you. 1). It must be written out on a sheet of paper and 2.) Every morning, you must state your goal out loud, that way, you will not forget what you are going after!! Now if you take me up on it, Awesome!! If not, my feelings won't be hurt 0___0,<--- (That is my Sad Face with a tear!!)! Once a month I will post little reminders and maybe even some positive motivation to keep you going! I've got my goal ready as well. So Happy Hunting folks!!
4th Blog Done!! If you take the challenge, hit me up either on www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston or www.facebook.com and let me know about your goals and progress (it will be our secret!!).


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You Cant C Me!!!

I now understand why some of the best writers were alcoholics, coke heads, or always on the verge of suicide.  It's only my 3rd week and I already have a case of writers block!! Ridiculous. There are a variety of topics that I could discuss.  I could talk about this Kony 2012 viral video spreading all over, doing an excellent job of brainwashing folks who are too lazy to learn about important social issues on their own.  Or I could talk politics and discuss the brainwashing that goes on and how, in reality, neither political party has your best interest in mind.  Depressing, isn't it? Or I could talk about Peyton Manning and how loyalty means absolutely nothing when it comes to business and money.
But I think I will keep it short and simple and discuss something I think will actually help you instead of worry you.  It's what I call the 3 C's of Life.  I feel like if a man or woman has the 3 C's, life is a lot less stressful and a lot more fun.  The 3 C's are confidence, character, and charisma.  Confidence speaks for itself.  As I stated in my last blog, it separates people who are successful from people who aren't.  You know a confident person when you meet them.  They don't even have to say a word.  It's exuded through dress, mannerisms, walk, etc. Confidence alone can get you through a lot of rough times.  But just because someone has great confidence doesn't mean they are a person of great character. A man or woman of great character understands what it means to have moral quality.  They understand what is right and, despite the ignorance of the world we live in today, will not compromise their ethics to fit in.  It makes me throw up to say this, but Tim Tebow (Barf!) is a guy who shows great character.  As a young guy in his 20's, it would be easy for him to go against his beliefs, have a coke party with midget strippers and a goat, chalk it up to young age, be forgiven and move on.  But he has stuck to his guns in the face of hatred and is the definition of a true role model, despite the number of God loves Tebow jokes I have told my sister over the past 3-4 years. The guy has character, enough said.  Finally, there is the 3rd C: Charisma!! Personality!! A unmatched charm and appeal which is unique because only you have it!!  It's the ability to sway opinion, give confidence to someone who needs it, and make people feel comfortable around you without knowing you.  It's when you give off the kind of energy that others want to emulate (and may try to steal, which is ok because they probably need it). Charisma, like confidence and character, is something you know when you see it. That's why, in my opinion, these 3 C's go perfectly hand in hand.
Now, as the reader, you may ask, "Ok, Mental Midget. Do you feel like you have all 3 C's?" My answer is that I'm good for about 65% of the 3 C's.  But I'm a work in progress and I know that life is marathon, and not a sprint!!!
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Good Guys vs. Nice Guys!!

Let me get this out of the way first!! I HATE NICE GUYS!! Now there was a time in my life where I used to be one and I learned fast that it is not the way to live.  I switched up and  became a Good Guy.  Now, many of you will say, "Hey Peanut Head, what's the difference?" Well, Im going to point them out!! Many of you many say, "Damn, I am a Nice Guy (in complete doofus voice)!" If you find yourself saying this, I am here to help you make the change.  Here are a few differences between a Good Guy and a Nice Guy.
1.) A Good Guy has real confidence in his abilities.  Confidence is what separates the champs from the chumps, the pitbulls and the poodles, and MJ and Lebron!! A good guy knows what he is capable of and is confident enough to take control of his life and not give a damn about what others think about him or his decisions.  A nice guy just lets life happen around him. He's scared to find out what he is capable of (with a little hard work and determination) and cares too much about what people think of him!! If you are the nice guy, go to the mirror and slap some toughness into that frail grill piece!!!
2.) A Good Guy knows what he wants from a woman and WILL TELL HER UPFRONT!! I will not get into Bad Boys today because that would become a completely separate discussion!! But good guys have no problem telling his girl what they will do on a Saturday Night. He knows how to treat his woman (in terms of respect ie; hold doors open, paying, etc) and understands when to be charming, when to complement his woman, etc.  Nice Guys are indecisive with their woman. He doesn't know how to complement his woman (generic crap like "Ummm..You look ummm....good?),.and has no real idea what he wants out of a woman.  Is she my friend? Is she my lover? Do I look good in these jeans? MAN UP!!! Here are 2 examples of conversations.  1st is the Good Guy, Next is the Nice Guy!!
Good Guy: Hey ____ u wanna go out tonight?
Young Woman: Sure! What do u have planned?
Good Guy: I figure we grab a bite to eat, go bowling, and the rest is a surprise!
Young Woman: Sounds interesting! I like surprises!
Good Guy: Ill pick u up at 8!
Young Woman: OK!!

Nice Guy: Umm...Hi _____ I was wondering...ummm...do you have any plans this evening..(*wets himself)
Young Woman: No! What do you have in mind?
Nice Guy: Umm...whatever you want to do is fine.....
Young Woman: Umm..you called me. I thought you had something in mind.
Nice Guy: Well...I just want to be around you so whatever you want to do is cool with me....
Young Woman: I think Im gonna hang with my girls..
Nice Guy: Oh..thats cool!! Maybe I can see you sometime this weekend?
Young Woman: NO!!!
Nice Guy: Ok talk to you later (*grabs bottle of lotion and goes to his bed to..ummm...you get the point!)

I could go on forever on this topic!! There has only been one time in my life where I intentionally played the nice guy.  It was for a special girl and it was a learning experience!! It took many women and a lot of baby games played to go from nice guy to dickhead to good guy!! The whole point of this is that, if you are living life as a softee, stop it now!! Hit the weights, read some self help books, stop masturbating and become a man!!! Set some goals and become decisive!! Stop letting life pass you by!! And any other cliche I could think of!!! 2nd Blog done!!! Follow me on Twitter!!!
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The Shift

Welcome to the first true installment of Sights Unseen.  My name is John Coston.  I will spare you all the A.K.A's, and  P.K.A's.  I was asked to do this by the President/CEO of Massive Internet Radio (and a close friend of mine), David Brown.  He asked me to just drop some of the wisdom and clown-like material that you would normally find on my FaceBook page.  I said "Sure", and here we are.  Now, when I'm on FaceBook, I have an assortment of material, like Word of the Day, #teamjohnny dating tips, pickup lines, etc.  Yeah, I know, it's pretty ridiculous!! But it seemed like I had absolutely no material left over for the blog!! So I decided that, for the first and last time, I would talk about something very personal.  June 12, 2011 is a date that, for most of you, doesn't mean anything.  For me, its a date that has changed my entire life. Its the day I got arrested for DUI.  Ill spare you all the details and Ill just sum it up like this.  When you put on those county blues and that jail doorway closes on you, reality smacks you in the face.  Now many of you reading this will talk about drinking and driving and the dangers of it, all of which I totally agree with.  I could talk to you about all the negatives of it: The amount of money shelled out in terms of legal fees, court costs, fines, etc.  I could tell you how embarrassing it was to tell my family members about it.  But, to be honest with you, it hasn't turned out as bad as one would suspect.  Inside of me, it started "The Shift."  It began a change within me to become the person that I had always dreamed of becoming.  Funny, articulate, well-read, you name it, Im trying to become it. Sometimes it takes great adversity for us to make a real change in our lives and, while I'm still going through the repercussions of my actions, I have strived to make everyday a productive day.  I'm now a full time student at Kennesaw State University and achieved a 3.5 GPA (Damn U Calculus)! I became a member of the GA Society of CPAs and hoped to join the KSU Football Club soon.  Most importantly, I haven't drank alcohol since that night and I have no desire to.  I have heard the expression that life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we respond to it.  I agree 100%!! Yeah, that was extra corny!! But I.A.G. (short way to say its all good-this will come up often).  Im sorry I got a little heavy the first time around.  But hey, it's my blog dammit!!! Anyway, leave a comment below and tell me some of your thoughts and this and future topics that you want me to blog on!! I promise they will not be this serious!! We will have as much fun as humanly (and legally) possible.  First One Done!!! See you Next Week!!!

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