Life has been changing at a rapid pace for me. School is about to start, work is off the chain, and I just haven't been inspired to write about the random ridiculousness that I experience on a daily basis. That is, until this week, when I had a conversation with a gentleman older than I. During lunch, I was playing some tunes from my YouTube play list when the song "Is This Love" by Whitesnake came on. Now, after the initial shock from all the people around me that I was playing this song (except for the one heavy-mulleted fellow who broke out the air guitar), we started to talk about love and how it seems to be missing in society today. After a few minutes, everyone, except for myself and another gentleman, left the room. We continued to talk about relationships and love and, as I noticed the wedding ring on his finger, I asked him how long he had been married. He said "20 years!" I asked him how he continues to make it work. He said "I fall in love with her every day like it's the first day I met her." He then proceeded to tell me how, when he first saw her, he knew right then and there she was going to be his wife and literally told this to her in their initial exchange. He sought out, and received, her parents' permission, made a list (and had her do likewise) of all the things he expected from her, and married her 5 weeks after they met. He stated that, in the 20 years, they have only had 3 major arguments and that he has never lied to her. He tells her when he is hanging with the fellas, showed her photos of every woman he had ever been with (I damn near threw up in my mouth when he said that one!), and promised her that she would never have to work unless she wanted to.
Now, as he explaining all of this to me, I am thinking 3 different thoughts. 1.) This guy is a psychopath who keeps his wife in a shed in his backyard, 2.) This guy is one of the luckiest guys ever to be able to not only find, but know and experience what true love is, and 3.) How do we know what true love is?
I know a lot of people who are with someone, not because they truly love that person, but out of convenience (have a car, house, lonely, boredom, money, etc.). If you have to lie to someone (and yourself) to be with that person, how can you say you are in love? In my personal opinion (since I'm writing this, it is the ONLY opinion that matters!), the person you fall in love with should not only be your lover, but also your best friend. You should be able to tell that person anything and everything. It should be someone that you want to build for (job, money, ambition) and build with (family, dog, etc.). I guess when you truly find "The One," you just know. I did the "Sucka Bet" blog a few weeks ago because I had such a negative view of relationships and marriage. But after talking with good people (and being involved with some ridiculous flings this summer), my stance on this is changing. I think there is someone for everyone. But we just have to be patient and be willing to get to know the person and not just the body part. This Blog is Over!!!! Ha!!!
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