First let me apologize for not posting over the past week and a half. I had finals and that takes precedent. Did you miss me? Well, #$%^ you!! I didn't miss you either!!! Just kidding. Anyway, this blog is going to be about marriage. If you are happily married, you may not want to read this. If not, read on.
This week, North Carolina passed an amendment banning gay marriage. I was having a conversation with one of my boys and they asked what my opinion of this was. I said that I don't have a problem with gays being married. They're taxpayers. Let them be miserable like everyone else! He then asked me, "Don't you believe in the sanctity of marriage involving one man and one woman?" I answered his question with a question of my own. I said, "What man in his right mind would want to get married?" Then, he started talking about all of the positives of marriage. He said," Its great having someone to come home to, talk to, etc." I said "Sorry, dawg. Its my opinion that marriage is for suckers." He hung up the phone on me.(I forgot to mention that he is married).
I have no desire right now to get married for a number of reasons. 1). I'm still working on getting my mind and my money correct. 2.) I have so many things that I want to do in life and I feel like a wife and kids would get in the way. 3.) I don't have time to play stupid games with women who I have no feelings for just to get some action. I know that last one was harsh. But lets be real: Dating is one big game with both parties trying to see what they can get out of it rather than seeing what they can put into it. In my opinion, the guys so desperate to be in relationships or get married are either a.) ugly, b.) have no game and just want to get with the first woman who will actually care about anything they have to say and c.) have no ambition and are looking for a woman to take care of their sorry a$$es.
Now I know that there are guys who want to start their own families, and I respect that tremendously. If you are one of these guys, make sure you select the right one. The right wife equals a lifetime of marital bliss. The wrong wife can destroy you financially and emotionally. I have a friend who dated this woman for 2 years and got married, got too comfortable and let go a little. Although he was still making good money, he gained 25 lbs and his hair thinned a little bit. Meanwhile, his wife worked out every day, still looked good and decided she wanted to show the world. While he was working to take care of the bills and the kids, she was going out, looking for attention. Long story short, she cheated and filed for divorce. He didn't find out about the affair until after the divorce proceedings and now he pays child support and alimony while she is chilling with the dude she cheated with. I know!! Its one isolated incident. But hearing stories like this and seeing the ridiculous divorce rates makes me think twice about getting locked u..... I mean, married. Relationships and marriage are like full time jobs; You have to put work in to get anything out of it. At this time, I don't feel like putting that time in. Could my opinion change? Of course. But right now, I will happily live the single life. Maybe next lifetime.
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