I must admit; This week, my thoughts have been all over the place. So, I would like to warn you in advance that this blog will be all over the place as well!! If I choose to, I will get to a point but, until then, allow me to ramble on about some nonsense in an attempt to make a weak connection!! Thank you!!
Recently, I went on a date with a young lady. Ok, she was a SMOKING HOT young lady. Excuse me while I take a second to pat myself on the back!! Anyway, we started talking and, unfortunately, the topic of conversation turned to music. I asked her what her favorite form of music was. She told me, "I love rap music and hip hop." Now, for those of you who don't know me, I am a dedicated fan of rap music. I've listened to hip hop for over 26 years now (Damn I'm old!), and I've written and produced songs for myself and others. I said "Cool!" Then she pulled out her phone, went on to You Tube and played for me who she thought was, as she put it, one of the best and most real rappers in the game today. Then she played this for me: http://youtu.be/bEadSQU9q-I You can click the link at your own risk!! After listening to it, it made me think of how much I hate rap music now!!!
I used to have a DEEP love for rap music. But once it became less about the art form and more about the money, the music started to go downhill. Guys have sacrificed talking about relevant social issues in favor of money, fine women, jewelry, basically, a whole lot of nothing!!! Its basically what happens when you lose control of something you create, which is the main point of this blog: Control!!
A lot of us lose control of our lives and we don't even realize it. We give it up to our jobs and allow them to stress us out to the max. We give it up to our belongings as we feel that if we don't have the latest gadgets or nicest cars, somehow, we are less significant than the next man or woman. At times we give up control to our lovers, letting them dictate the terms of a relationship in exchange for sexual and emotional favors. Here is the Question that I demand you ask yourself this week: "Am I in Control?" If the answer is NO, then the next question should be, "How do I regain control?" Whether you know it or not, how much control you have over yourself can determine the next 5, 10, hell, the rest of your life!!!
Trust me, if you aren't in control, once you take it back, you will feel like a new person. This is the same way I feel about rap music. Once the artists take back the artistry, you will not only have a better product, but the art will have a better representation to the world rather than the garbage you see on T.V. now. If I see another 100 tattoo-having, raccoon-face sucka with jeggins and ugg boots on my television screen again, I'll........do nothing but change the channel (Straight Thug Talk right there!!)!! The whole point of this for you, the reader, and you, the rapper, is to learn the power of control and use it wisely.
As for the young lady, there will be no second date!!!
This week was just a quickie!! Next Week I'll be doing challenge checkups and teaching you how to VOTE!! OOhhhhhh!!!! 6th blog done!! follow on www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston and www.facebook.com
Saturday, March 31, 2012
Saturday, March 24, 2012
My Two Cents!!
Damn!! This has been such a crazy week, not only in my personal life, but just in general. I told you when I first started that I was going to keep the blog entertaining rather than discuss heavy issues. But, at the same time, this Trayvon Martin situation has got a lot of people riled up and it opens up old wounds in regards to racial profiling, classism, the influence of $ (NRA I got you!), etc. That's why, this week, I will break this blog down into what I will call The Funny, The Ridiculous, and The Tragic. I will discuss 3 stories in the news and give you my two cents. After a week like this, I feel it is still my duty to provide at least a bit of entertainment!!!
First, I will address the The Funny: The Tim Tebow-to-the-Jets-The-Lord-is-My-Shepherd story. The Jets showed this week why they will always be the little brother to the Giants by trading 2 draft picks to the Broncos for God's 2nd begotten son and a 7th round draft pick (only after they sign Drew Stanton to a contract to be the backup QB a few days earlier). Now some will try to put a positive spin on it by talking about Tebow's leadership, the Wildcat offense, the fact that he's good on his feet and we all know how Rex Ryan loves feet, etc. But the problem is that the Jets didn't make this move based on benefits to the organization. They still need Offensive Line help, a Wide Out, D End, etc. This was done as a publicity stunt to take the back pages of the NY newspapers away from the NY Giants who, by the way, dont worry about that stuff, All they do is win SuperBowls!! I could tell that this is one of those moves made by ownership!! Woody Johnson, owner of the Jets, sat in the owners box in Mile High Stadium the night Tebow and Broncos came back to beat the Jets. When Tebow became available, he probably said "(Jets GM) Tannenbaum, I don't care what you have to do! Bring me Tebow!!!" Championships are not built off gimmicks!! They are built off of hard work, smart work, determination and patience!! None of these traits have been displayed by the Jets!!! Good luck this season!! Myself and the Lord are watching!!
Next up, the Ridiculous!! A woman in Colorado called a Denver radio station and bragged about how she avoided jury duty! This moron detailed the steps she took to avoid having to serve (including some lies about having post traumatic stress disorder and mental issues) and even talked about how she and her roommate got such a kick out of it!! Welp, the judge she lied to happened to be listening to the show, had her investigated and arrested on 2 felony charges (perjury and attempting to influence a public servant). Wow!!! Note to all aspiring thugs, crime bosses, thieves, etc; If your dumb a$$ is going to commit a crime, DON'T TELL ANYONE ABOUT IT, let alone call up a radio station to brag!!! I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately, some people go out of their way to show you that they are stuck between stage 3 and 4 of the evolutionary chain!!
Finally, the Tragic!! Everyone knows the Trayvon Martin story!! It is a sad story and one that has affected all of us in some way. I don't want to get too deep into it because, again, I want to keep my blog lighthearted. But I will say two things about it. First, R.I.P Trayvon. A child is dead and no parent deserves that heartbreaking of an experience. Second, I hope that this raw energy and emotion being shown can be transformed into something that will help make changes in the communities so that tragedies like this won't happen again. Adversity creates courage and, if this inspires one child to become a lawyer, another to become an activist, etc. Then this effort won't be in vain!!!
5th Blog Done (You've got your paragraphs, Maya Coston)!! As always, follow me on twitter at www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston or comment on www.facebook.com and let me know what you think!!!
First, I will address the The Funny: The Tim Tebow-to-the-Jets-The-Lord-is-My-Shepherd story. The Jets showed this week why they will always be the little brother to the Giants by trading 2 draft picks to the Broncos for God's 2nd begotten son and a 7th round draft pick (only after they sign Drew Stanton to a contract to be the backup QB a few days earlier). Now some will try to put a positive spin on it by talking about Tebow's leadership, the Wildcat offense, the fact that he's good on his feet and we all know how Rex Ryan loves feet, etc. But the problem is that the Jets didn't make this move based on benefits to the organization. They still need Offensive Line help, a Wide Out, D End, etc. This was done as a publicity stunt to take the back pages of the NY newspapers away from the NY Giants who, by the way, dont worry about that stuff, All they do is win SuperBowls!! I could tell that this is one of those moves made by ownership!! Woody Johnson, owner of the Jets, sat in the owners box in Mile High Stadium the night Tebow and Broncos came back to beat the Jets. When Tebow became available, he probably said "(Jets GM) Tannenbaum, I don't care what you have to do! Bring me Tebow!!!" Championships are not built off gimmicks!! They are built off of hard work, smart work, determination and patience!! None of these traits have been displayed by the Jets!!! Good luck this season!! Myself and the Lord are watching!!
Next up, the Ridiculous!! A woman in Colorado called a Denver radio station and bragged about how she avoided jury duty! This moron detailed the steps she took to avoid having to serve (including some lies about having post traumatic stress disorder and mental issues) and even talked about how she and her roommate got such a kick out of it!! Welp, the judge she lied to happened to be listening to the show, had her investigated and arrested on 2 felony charges (perjury and attempting to influence a public servant). Wow!!! Note to all aspiring thugs, crime bosses, thieves, etc; If your dumb a$$ is going to commit a crime, DON'T TELL ANYONE ABOUT IT, let alone call up a radio station to brag!!! I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately, some people go out of their way to show you that they are stuck between stage 3 and 4 of the evolutionary chain!!
Finally, the Tragic!! Everyone knows the Trayvon Martin story!! It is a sad story and one that has affected all of us in some way. I don't want to get too deep into it because, again, I want to keep my blog lighthearted. But I will say two things about it. First, R.I.P Trayvon. A child is dead and no parent deserves that heartbreaking of an experience. Second, I hope that this raw energy and emotion being shown can be transformed into something that will help make changes in the communities so that tragedies like this won't happen again. Adversity creates courage and, if this inspires one child to become a lawyer, another to become an activist, etc. Then this effort won't be in vain!!!
5th Blog Done (You've got your paragraphs, Maya Coston)!! As always, follow me on twitter at www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston or comment on www.facebook.com and let me know what you think!!!
Saturday, March 17, 2012
The Challenge
Happy Post St. Patrick's Day!!! To my Irish homies, "Top of the Morning to Ya" (although for most of you it should be "Top of the Evening" as you recover from your hangover)! To all my BLIrishman (Black and Irish homies: All 2 of ya), Shamrock, Shenanigans and Snapbacks!! I am going to try to keep this week's blog short and sweet. At the beginning of every year, we all have our New Years' Resolutions, which basically become promises to ourselves that we do not keep. These days, I live by the expression, "A promise is a comfort to a fool!" In my opinion, goals, where your desired results are written down on paper and displayed as a constant reminder of where you need to go, work much better. If you have to look at your goals everyday (and even recite the words you place on that paper), there is not only a bigger sense of accountability, but also it gives you a true aim to work backwards from. A friend of mine had a dream to become a nurse. So every morning, she would say out loud, "I WILL BE A NURSE!" (Kind of annoying at 5:30 in the morning after a night of drinks and unmentionables...). But she worked at it and she fulfilled her dream all by herself.
Now, for a second, put yourself in her shoes and imagine you gave yourself a real goal. Not an empty promise; I am talking about a goal, written out, with a time frame of, let's say, one year from today!!! Do you think you can reach it? Do you think you would be up for a life changing experience? What would be your motivation? How would you reach your goal? A lot of things to think about, right? Well, that is why this blog is named "The Challenge!" I challenge you to come up with a legitimate goal for yourself. It doesn't have to be huge. Just a little something that you think you can accomplish within a year. Don't make it too easy, like showering once a day for a year (For some of you, that is an achievement!). At the same time, don't get too ridiculous with it either! Should you choose to take me up on the challenge, I only have two rules for you. 1). It must be written out on a sheet of paper and 2.) Every morning, you must state your goal out loud, that way, you will not forget what you are going after!! Now if you take me up on it, Awesome!! If not, my feelings won't be hurt 0___0,<--- (That is my Sad Face with a tear!!)! Once a month I will post little reminders and maybe even some positive motivation to keep you going! I've got my goal ready as well. So Happy Hunting folks!!
4th Blog Done!! If you take the challenge, hit me up either on www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston or www.facebook.com and let me know about your goals and progress (it will be our secret!!).
P.S. Anything involving fitness, consult a doctor first!! I'm broke and won't be able to pay for your medical fees if you are injured and sue me!!! Sheesh!!!
P.P.S. Check out my other Blogs as well!!!
Now, for a second, put yourself in her shoes and imagine you gave yourself a real goal. Not an empty promise; I am talking about a goal, written out, with a time frame of, let's say, one year from today!!! Do you think you can reach it? Do you think you would be up for a life changing experience? What would be your motivation? How would you reach your goal? A lot of things to think about, right? Well, that is why this blog is named "The Challenge!" I challenge you to come up with a legitimate goal for yourself. It doesn't have to be huge. Just a little something that you think you can accomplish within a year. Don't make it too easy, like showering once a day for a year (For some of you, that is an achievement!). At the same time, don't get too ridiculous with it either! Should you choose to take me up on the challenge, I only have two rules for you. 1). It must be written out on a sheet of paper and 2.) Every morning, you must state your goal out loud, that way, you will not forget what you are going after!! Now if you take me up on it, Awesome!! If not, my feelings won't be hurt 0___0,<--- (That is my Sad Face with a tear!!)! Once a month I will post little reminders and maybe even some positive motivation to keep you going! I've got my goal ready as well. So Happy Hunting folks!!
4th Blog Done!! If you take the challenge, hit me up either on www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston or www.facebook.com and let me know about your goals and progress (it will be our secret!!).
P.S. Anything involving fitness, consult a doctor first!! I'm broke and won't be able to pay for your medical fees if you are injured and sue me!!! Sheesh!!!
P.P.S. Check out my other Blogs as well!!!
Saturday, March 10, 2012
You Cant C Me!!!
I now understand why some of the best writers were alcoholics, coke heads, or always on the verge of suicide. It's only my 3rd week and I already have a case of writers block!! Ridiculous. There are a variety of topics that I could discuss. I could talk about this Kony 2012 viral video spreading all over, doing an excellent job of brainwashing folks who are too lazy to learn about important social issues on their own. Or I could talk politics and discuss the brainwashing that goes on and how, in reality, neither political party has your best interest in mind. Depressing, isn't it? Or I could talk about Peyton Manning and how loyalty means absolutely nothing when it comes to business and money.
But I think I will keep it short and simple and discuss something I think will actually help you instead of worry you. It's what I call the 3 C's of Life. I feel like if a man or woman has the 3 C's, life is a lot less stressful and a lot more fun. The 3 C's are confidence, character, and charisma. Confidence speaks for itself. As I stated in my last blog, it separates people who are successful from people who aren't. You know a confident person when you meet them. They don't even have to say a word. It's exuded through dress, mannerisms, walk, etc. Confidence alone can get you through a lot of rough times. But just because someone has great confidence doesn't mean they are a person of great character. A man or woman of great character understands what it means to have moral quality. They understand what is right and, despite the ignorance of the world we live in today, will not compromise their ethics to fit in. It makes me throw up to say this, but Tim Tebow (Barf!) is a guy who shows great character. As a young guy in his 20's, it would be easy for him to go against his beliefs, have a coke party with midget strippers and a goat, chalk it up to young age, be forgiven and move on. But he has stuck to his guns in the face of hatred and is the definition of a true role model, despite the number of God loves Tebow jokes I have told my sister over the past 3-4 years. The guy has character, enough said. Finally, there is the 3rd C: Charisma!! Personality!! A unmatched charm and appeal which is unique because only you have it!! It's the ability to sway opinion, give confidence to someone who needs it, and make people feel comfortable around you without knowing you. It's when you give off the kind of energy that others want to emulate (and may try to steal, which is ok because they probably need it). Charisma, like confidence and character, is something you know when you see it. That's why, in my opinion, these 3 C's go perfectly hand in hand.
Now, as the reader, you may ask, "Ok, Mental Midget. Do you feel like you have all 3 C's?" My answer is that I'm good for about 65% of the 3 C's. But I'm a work in progress and I know that life is marathon, and not a sprint!!!
3rd Blog Done!! If you want to leave a comment, leave it on my FaceBook page (John Winfield Coston Iv)! And follow on Twitter at www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston
But I think I will keep it short and simple and discuss something I think will actually help you instead of worry you. It's what I call the 3 C's of Life. I feel like if a man or woman has the 3 C's, life is a lot less stressful and a lot more fun. The 3 C's are confidence, character, and charisma. Confidence speaks for itself. As I stated in my last blog, it separates people who are successful from people who aren't. You know a confident person when you meet them. They don't even have to say a word. It's exuded through dress, mannerisms, walk, etc. Confidence alone can get you through a lot of rough times. But just because someone has great confidence doesn't mean they are a person of great character. A man or woman of great character understands what it means to have moral quality. They understand what is right and, despite the ignorance of the world we live in today, will not compromise their ethics to fit in. It makes me throw up to say this, but Tim Tebow (Barf!) is a guy who shows great character. As a young guy in his 20's, it would be easy for him to go against his beliefs, have a coke party with midget strippers and a goat, chalk it up to young age, be forgiven and move on. But he has stuck to his guns in the face of hatred and is the definition of a true role model, despite the number of God loves Tebow jokes I have told my sister over the past 3-4 years. The guy has character, enough said. Finally, there is the 3rd C: Charisma!! Personality!! A unmatched charm and appeal which is unique because only you have it!! It's the ability to sway opinion, give confidence to someone who needs it, and make people feel comfortable around you without knowing you. It's when you give off the kind of energy that others want to emulate (and may try to steal, which is ok because they probably need it). Charisma, like confidence and character, is something you know when you see it. That's why, in my opinion, these 3 C's go perfectly hand in hand.
Now, as the reader, you may ask, "Ok, Mental Midget. Do you feel like you have all 3 C's?" My answer is that I'm good for about 65% of the 3 C's. But I'm a work in progress and I know that life is marathon, and not a sprint!!!
3rd Blog Done!! If you want to leave a comment, leave it on my FaceBook page (John Winfield Coston Iv)! And follow on Twitter at www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Good Guys vs. Nice Guys!!
Let me get this out of the way first!! I HATE NICE GUYS!! Now there was a time in my life where I used to be one and I learned fast that it is not the way to live. I switched up and became a Good Guy. Now, many of you will say, "Hey Peanut Head, what's the difference?" Well, Im going to point them out!! Many of you many say, "Damn, I am a Nice Guy (in complete doofus voice)!" If you find yourself saying this, I am here to help you make the change. Here are a few differences between a Good Guy and a Nice Guy.
1.) A Good Guy has real confidence in his abilities. Confidence is what separates the champs from the chumps, the pitbulls and the poodles, and MJ and Lebron!! A good guy knows what he is capable of and is confident enough to take control of his life and not give a damn about what others think about him or his decisions. A nice guy just lets life happen around him. He's scared to find out what he is capable of (with a little hard work and determination) and cares too much about what people think of him!! If you are the nice guy, go to the mirror and slap some toughness into that frail grill piece!!!
2.) A Good Guy knows what he wants from a woman and WILL TELL HER UPFRONT!! I will not get into Bad Boys today because that would become a completely separate discussion!! But good guys have no problem telling his girl what they will do on a Saturday Night. He knows how to treat his woman (in terms of respect ie; hold doors open, paying, etc) and understands when to be charming, when to complement his woman, etc. Nice Guys are indecisive with their woman. He doesn't know how to complement his woman (generic crap like "Ummm..You look ummm....good?),.and has no real idea what he wants out of a woman. Is she my friend? Is she my lover? Do I look good in these jeans? MAN UP!!! Here are 2 examples of conversations. 1st is the Good Guy, Next is the Nice Guy!!
Good Guy: Hey ____ u wanna go out tonight?
Young Woman: Sure! What do u have planned?
Good Guy: I figure we grab a bite to eat, go bowling, and the rest is a surprise!
Young Woman: Sounds interesting! I like surprises!
Good Guy: Ill pick u up at 8!
Young Woman: OK!!
Nice Guy: Umm...Hi _____ I was wondering...ummm...do you have any plans this evening..(*wets himself)
Young Woman: No! What do you have in mind?
Nice Guy: Umm...whatever you want to do is fine.....
Young Woman: Umm..you called me. I thought you had something in mind.
Nice Guy: Well...I just want to be around you so whatever you want to do is cool with me....
Young Woman: I think Im gonna hang with my girls..
Nice Guy: Oh..thats cool!! Maybe I can see you sometime this weekend?
Young Woman: NO!!!
Nice Guy: Ok talk to you later (*grabs bottle of lotion and goes to his bed to..ummm...you get the point!)
I could go on forever on this topic!! There has only been one time in my life where I intentionally played the nice guy. It was for a special girl and it was a learning experience!! It took many women and a lot of baby games played to go from nice guy to dickhead to good guy!! The whole point of this is that, if you are living life as a softee, stop it now!! Hit the weights, read some self help books, stop masturbating and become a man!!! Set some goals and become decisive!! Stop letting life pass you by!! And any other cliche I could think of!!! 2nd Blog done!!! Follow me on Twitter!!!
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1.) A Good Guy has real confidence in his abilities. Confidence is what separates the champs from the chumps, the pitbulls and the poodles, and MJ and Lebron!! A good guy knows what he is capable of and is confident enough to take control of his life and not give a damn about what others think about him or his decisions. A nice guy just lets life happen around him. He's scared to find out what he is capable of (with a little hard work and determination) and cares too much about what people think of him!! If you are the nice guy, go to the mirror and slap some toughness into that frail grill piece!!!
2.) A Good Guy knows what he wants from a woman and WILL TELL HER UPFRONT!! I will not get into Bad Boys today because that would become a completely separate discussion!! But good guys have no problem telling his girl what they will do on a Saturday Night. He knows how to treat his woman (in terms of respect ie; hold doors open, paying, etc) and understands when to be charming, when to complement his woman, etc. Nice Guys are indecisive with their woman. He doesn't know how to complement his woman (generic crap like "Ummm..You look ummm....good?),.and has no real idea what he wants out of a woman. Is she my friend? Is she my lover? Do I look good in these jeans? MAN UP!!! Here are 2 examples of conversations. 1st is the Good Guy, Next is the Nice Guy!!
Good Guy: Hey ____ u wanna go out tonight?
Young Woman: Sure! What do u have planned?
Good Guy: I figure we grab a bite to eat, go bowling, and the rest is a surprise!
Young Woman: Sounds interesting! I like surprises!
Good Guy: Ill pick u up at 8!
Young Woman: OK!!
Nice Guy: Umm...Hi _____ I was wondering...ummm...do you have any plans this evening..(*wets himself)
Young Woman: No! What do you have in mind?
Nice Guy: Umm...whatever you want to do is fine.....
Young Woman: Umm..you called me. I thought you had something in mind.
Nice Guy: Well...I just want to be around you so whatever you want to do is cool with me....
Young Woman: I think Im gonna hang with my girls..
Nice Guy: Oh..thats cool!! Maybe I can see you sometime this weekend?
Young Woman: NO!!!
Nice Guy: Ok talk to you later (*grabs bottle of lotion and goes to his bed to..ummm...you get the point!)
I could go on forever on this topic!! There has only been one time in my life where I intentionally played the nice guy. It was for a special girl and it was a learning experience!! It took many women and a lot of baby games played to go from nice guy to dickhead to good guy!! The whole point of this is that, if you are living life as a softee, stop it now!! Hit the weights, read some self help books, stop masturbating and become a man!!! Set some goals and become decisive!! Stop letting life pass you by!! And any other cliche I could think of!!! 2nd Blog done!!! Follow me on Twitter!!!
www.twitter.com/thefakejcoston
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